Today the "Entertainment" headlines informed us that television reality personality Kim Kardashian has filed for divorce from her professional athlete husband of 72 days, Kris Humphries.
I'm not privy to the details that led to the proposed ending of this marriage and, as is the case upon learning of any marital relationship in trouble, I'm am saddened by the news.
I also have no interest in judging this particular relationship. But the news in this particular case does highlight one important point: the amount of planning and/or money expended in one's marriage ceremony does not increase the likelihood of the marriage's success. In fact sometimes, but not always, the inverse is more likely true.
Seriously, if you're planning or hoping to get married, don't let the details related to the wedding day itself overshadow your preparation and personal investment (non-financial!)in the marriage itself.
It has been said that "a wedding is intended for a day but a marriage is intended for a lifetime." Shouldn't the primary focus be on preparing for and maintaining the latter rather than the former?
Don't get me wrong. I'm not suggesting that the wedding day shouldn't be special. Nor am I suggesting that just because a wedding is done 'on the cheap' it will almost assuredly make for a lasting marriage.
I'm just saying that in every case the couple's focus (and perhaps that of the relatives and friends of the couple) should be on helping to nurture the relationship itself first and foremost. Wedding details themselves are best regulated to an exciting but secondary pleasure.
Feel free to comment with your own thoughts.
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